Introducing: The Con Man
He’s sleek, he’s well-spoken, he’s got a charismatic aura about him that sucks you in. People lean in when he talks. He makes meaningful eye contact. He says he’ll demystify the deep secrets of dating, grooming, body language, approaching a girl, delivering the best pick up lines, the art of attraction, flirting, and pretty soon all of the world’s most beautiful women will fall into your lap because, just like him, you now know how to be a player, you know how to be an alpha male.
He tells you that he’s got the solution to all of your problems, and it will only cost you $50, $100, $200 a session! He charges the same rate as a lawyer just so you can learn to be like him. Maybe you’ve already met him. Who is he? He’s the pick-up artist con man. He gains your confidence and then gains your money. The worst part? He’s everywhere. He goes by many names. He takes on many forms. He has dozens of websites, ebooks and video tutorials. He is legion.
Listen, we’re not saying that there isn’t any merit to what he – the con man – has to say. Maybe he actually helps people. But maybe you can learn everything he knows without having to rob a bank and take out two mortgages to do it.
What if we told you you can ditch the “confidence men” by becoming a man with confidence?
The Magic of Confidence
You’ve heard it before. Maybe you’re even sick and tired of hearing it: “You just got to be confident.” Huge cliché and easier said than done, right? But Goddamn if it doesn’t change everything. Confidence works. Period. Just look at these dating advice “gurus”. That’s literally where the con in “con man” comes from: Confidence.
We’ve all been at points in our lives where we’re unsure. That’s normal. But for huge swaths of men out there, it’s chronic. If you’re not having the success you want, there is a good chance that somewhere deep inside, you’re holding yourself back. Whether it’s success with love, money, career, self-control, or anything around you and your happiness, it takes confidence to take risks and grow as a man.
Speaking of confidence, let’s be transparent here: We’re confident in who and what we are. No one likes bullshit and we know you’re smart enough to make your own decisions. That’s why we don’t mind telling you up front that the whole point of this article is to highlight why these alpha male gurus exist and to offer our alternative. The rest is up to you. We believe the one-on-one approach is limiting and crazy expensive (more on this below). We believe Alpha IQ is the next generation of community-based male self-actualization. In short, we believe in you, not them.
So let’s compare and contrast shall we?
Why does confidence work?
Part of why confidence works is a simply a numbers game. In economics, it’s ‘opportunity cost’, in sports it’s the old adage of “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t make.” Bottom line: when you have the confidence to seize opportunities, then you’ll just have more successes, and probably more failures too. That’s a good thing, because failure is an excellent teacher. Having the confidence to fail and be imperfect is having the confidence to learn. It’s sounds weird, but the more you fail, the more you succeed. It just takes time.
Crowdsourced Personal Growth: From One to Many
So why not trust a confidence man to give you confidence? Sounds like it’s so crazy it just might work? He’s got the confidence, maybe you just need to do what he does?
The problem is the inherent nature of con-man. They exploit the confidence others see in them. When you partner with them, you’re not gaining confidence in yourself, you’re giving your confidence away, along with your hard earn money. It’s more like confidence outsourcing than confidence cultivation. The more he can convince you that you’re not doing it the right way and need more study, the more he can sell you.
Think about the difference between a food critic and a Yelp review. If people are looking for a place to eat, practically no one reads food critics anymore. Some professional writer will have some eloquent, and usually very particular opinions on each restaurant. But an online review delivered by honest individuals will tell you pretty quickly whether or not the place is good.
So who should you trust when it comes to making a change in your life? One flashy guy with maybe a Youtube channel and an ebook? Or thousands of guys just like you who have made huge progress with the help of their community by trying out literally hundreds of different ways that work for them? If that doesn’t convince you to dump the one-on-one sessions with con men, remember you’re going to pay, like, twenty times the price for that one guy’s opinion, one time! One session with them can pay for over a year-and-a-half with Alpha IQ.
$6 is one beer at a bar per month. Or one latte at a nice cafe. And you get so much more than what one beer or one coffee can buy.
We don’t just want you to learn how to grow as a man, and learn how to ask a girl out, learn how to flirt, learn the art of pick up lines, learn how to be attractive and all that good stuff, we want you to teach others in the community. Alpha IQ harnesses real life successes to give everyone the chance to help other men just as they were helped.
The unfortunate PUA Hate groups that exist nowadays comes from the lack of real support and guidance many of these charlatans peddled. Thousands of men were left jaded and sullen, convinced of their own comforting lie that they’re beyond hope, unchangeable and decided to “go their own way,” as it were. Instead, the exact opposite is true. Not only can you change, it’s impossible NOT to change. You’re changing everyday. You know you can learn new things, do you think you were born knowing how to read English? And most profoundly, you’re getting older! Maybe you’ve already missed out on a lot. And if you don’t make new intentions with your life, you’re going to miss on everything. Have FOMO for your life. We can provide the tools, the support and community to finally flourish.
The best judge for you… is you!
Truth is, the con men we’re talking about here are continuing to exploit thousands of men out there every day. Remember: They are the product. It’s their goal to foster a cult of personality where they are revered. He’s the shepherd and the men who follow him are a flock he can fleece. It’s the con men that have given rise to the PUA Hate, but it doesn’t mean that there aren’t ways of cultivating confidence, presenting your best self and learning to navigate the social shoals of approaching attractive women. Ultimately, it’s your choice. That’s the whole point of taking responsibility and being a man. If you’re sick of going it alone, we can help. Not just us, the people who curate the site, but the members just like you who have been there before, and gone on to become men with real confidence.
It’s like how Jordan Peterson says in his book 12 Rules for Life:
“You deserve some respect. You are important to other people, as much as to yourself. You have some vital role to play in the unfolding destiny of the world. You are, therefore, morally obliged to take care of yourself. You should take care of, help and be good to yourself the same way you would take care of, help and be good to someone you loved and valued.”